Life in a bi-racial family is awesome. Our family is not awesome because we are bi-racial, but because my husband and I found love and built a family together, which has become awesome, just like many other families out there.
Some people are unsure of what to think when they see us together. The people that are unsure, will stare and won't necessarily smile back right away after I've smiled at them to let them know I see them staring. They just kind of have a quizzical look on their faces, like they find it hard to believe that this big black man and little white girl could really be happy together. I'm not sure, because people are not very direct, oftentimes, but it seems like they think that possibly one of us is not being authentic.
I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, and hope that they are not being racist, but... racism is alive and well in America, and it has dug roots so deep that people don't even realize they are being racist when they are.
Two people who look different from each other on the outside may have very similar personalities, ideas and beliefs. It is also possible for the two people to acknowledge and appreciate any cultural differences they may have, at the same time. Mose and I take the time to notice and appreciate these differences, as we know our two individual selves have created this wonderful relationship that we share. We do not deny our individual heritages.
Overall, I feel sorry for people who have confined themselves to a box and believe that they can only be happy with someone who looks like them or with someone who comes from a similar upbringing. Those people are limiting some potentially great possibilities for themselves, as you truly never know who you might 'click' with.
Mose and I gave love a chance and I'm so glad that we did.
Girl, I hear ya! I get the ageist thing a lot....Angie and I have quite a few years between us, and I get mistaken for his daughter all too often. What works extremely well for us, freaks a lot of people out. If two people love each other and make each other happy, that should really be the only thing that matters. xoxox, I love you and Mose and your adorable little family! You're all perfect for each other! Donielle
ReplyDeleteYes, Donielle, well said. I agree. Thank you so much and we love you too!!
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