Speak Life

 I was listening to the Toby Mac song “Speak Life” this morning on the radio while driving. It is a great song that talks about the importance of speaking positively in tough situations in your life and others' lives and how important it is to speak life, rather than speak negatively about our situations or others.  The Bible has many references to the power of the tongue.  Colossians 4:6 says, “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.”  James 3:9 says,” With the tongue, we praise our Lord and Father, and with it, we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness.”  I often say negative things jokingly, but I realize that when we say things out loud, they are in the atmosphere, and we can never take them back. 

This makes me think about one of my best friends.  She is someone who constantly speaks positively to others- no matter the situation.  Sometimes it can be annoying, but that is only when I am selfishly trying to wallow in my frustration and enjoy feeling sorry for myself if I am being honest. Isn’t it true that we often want to sit in our frustration and not try to work to feel happier?  We complain about our troubles, but we do not work to feel better about our situation. We do not choose to think positively or speak positively, which only causes us to stay where we are and not progress toward better life circumstances.   We often make fun of the positive people in our lives and might think they are a little naïve; however, if you really think about it, it is much more difficult to choose to stay positive. Those people in our lives like my friend who always says positive things, even during the tough times, are working harder than us if we really think about it.  We all see the stickers, billboards, and license plates that say, “Choose Happiness” and it truly is a choice to be happy and to remain positive. 

I am going through a tough situation in my marriage.  My husband and I are in a disagreement about something that I will keep private for him, but which is really upsetting to me on a deep level.   I have a choice to make about it.  I can choose to see things in a positive light, as best as possible, or I can choose to remain upset, closed off, and not try to work it out with him.  It would be much easier emotionally to do the latter, as it takes no work to sit in my pain and frustration.  Do not get me wrong, you should never stay in an abusive situation, and what I am going through is not abuse.  I am just talking about situations that can eventually be worked out, as long as you remain positive and talk things out with your partner/whoever the relationship is with where you have an issue.  The problem for most of us is that choosing happiness and positivity takes work, and it takes time.  Generally speaking, most of us are lazy and impatient (see, there I go being negative!), so we are unwilling to do the work that is required to repair our relationships.  I encourage you today to choose happiness and to speak positively into your own life and into others’ lives today. Maybe have a goal to go one full day without saying anything negative and see how it impacts your day.  I promise to try it if you will. 😊 Love you!